Empathy invites us to imagine how we would feel if it had happened to us. Our friend's suffering makes us think about ourselves. It is relative to our experience and preferences. We become like Goldilocks, testing out our friend's bed. To illustrate, let's take an event - a miscarriage - and see how empathy can fall apart.
The Bed is Too Hard (I'm having a hard time relating).
Maybe we will never have a miscarriage ourselves. We're male or maybe joyfully childfree and o