June 30, 2016


Empathy invites us to imagine how we would feel if it had happened to us. Our friend's suffering makes us think about ourselves.  It is relative to our experience and preferences.  We become like Goldilocks, testing out our friend's bed.  To illustrate, let's take an...

June 30, 2016

Some people say "justice" but they're thinking vengeance or punishment. The desire for vengeance or punishment is not compatible with compassion - although I think we should be compassionate for those who clamour for these.  

If justice means "equitable, impartia...

June 29, 2016

It is possible to feel sadness and to transcend it at the same time.  I have been fortunate enough to meet a few truly wise people.  None of them were indifferent.   I have also met people who wished they were wise but have mistaken indifference for equanimity.  If equ...

June 29, 2016

It's ironic that people use the term compassion fatigue to describe the depression, sleeplessness and anxiety that may come from being immersed in other people's suffering. Compassion is the antidote to the burnout and stress caused by overuse of empathy....

June 29, 2016

There's a moment when you're holding something the other person will not want to know. As you wait for them to answer the door, or come into your office or pick up the phone it feels like you're about to hand them an exploding package.   A lot of energy is about to be...

Please reload

Featured Posts

How to get rid of self-pity

November 12, 2016

1/3
Please reload

Recent Posts
Please reload

Archive